How to Get a Girl Pregnant is a frank and funny memoir about a dyke trying to get pregnant. Karleen Pendleton Jiménez has known that she was gay since she was three years old and wanted to have a baby for almost as long. But how is a butch Chicana lesbian supposed to get sperm? Picking up men at nightclubs and restaurants? Asking queer male friends for a donation? Using sperm banks dominated by blue-eyed and blond-haired donors? This candid and humorous memoir follows Karleen’s challenges, adventures, successes, failures, humiliations, and triumphs while attempting to fulfill her dream of giving birth to a child. It is a confession of desire, humility, and the search for perfection.
“In an honest, captivating memoir, Pendleton assures her readers that they are in for a surprise in the pageturning adventure.”— Emma Pérez, author of Forgetting the Alamo, Or, Blood Memory
“Karleen Pendleton Jiménez tackles topics like mortality, family, race, queerness, and sperm with the best tools in the box: a sense of humour and the sensibilities of a great storyteller.”—Ivan Coyote, author of Missed Her and Bow Grip
“You’re a butch woman, a bulldagger, an outlier, and your maternal instincts are a strong as Betty Crocker. Whaddya do when you want to get pregnant on the double without a lot of heterosexual handwringing and bourgeois p.c. angst? You listen to Karleen.”—Susie Bright“
Like all great memoirs, this is an intimate story that manages to connect with the universal, and the narratives of pregnancy and motherhood are so much richer for it.”—Kerry Clare, Pickle Me This
“It’s an honest, brave and beautiful story and everyone should read it.”—Alison Lang, Broken Pencil